运用儿童技能教养法需要新的思维方式 – Kids’Skills requires a new way of thinking
Kids'Skills is a simple method, but applying it is not quite as easy as it might seem. Adopting the method requires you to take on a new way of thinking.
In Western psychology we have all been taught to think that children's problems are, as a rule, caused by environmental factors, such as how their parents raise them. As a result of this thinking, parents often feel blamed for the problems of their offspring. This in turn fuels conflicts between the parents as they often respond to the perceived blame by blaming each other.
Kids'Skills is designed to put an end to the vicious circle of blaming . In Kids'Skills you don't spend time trying to figure out the reason why a a child has a given problem. Instead, you focus on figuring out what skills the child needs to learn in order to overcome the problem.