运用儿童技能教养法需要新的思维方式 – Kids’Skills requires a new way of thinking

儿童技能教养法简单却不容易。你必须有一个全新的思考方式才能接受它,而且必须花一番功夫才能真的学会使用它。

西方心理学一直教导我们说,孩子的问题通常都是环境造成的,比如,家庭境遇,或者说父母养育他们的方法。因为有这样的认知,每当孩子出现问题,家长就会有一种被责备的感觉,也会引发家长或养育者之间的冲突或相互指责。

儿童技能教养法的设计就是要刻意地打破这种相互责备的“恶性循环”。使用这个方法,不会花费太多的时间去探究问题的根源,而是聚焦于找到“为了克服的问题,孩子需要学习的技能”。这样以来,就不会像一些传统的解决儿童问题的手法那样陷入典型的“查找原因“的对话中。

那就不谈问题,让我们开始谈论技能吧。


Kids'Skills is a simple method, but applying it is not quite as easy as it might seem. Adopting the method requires you to take on a new way of thinking.

In Western psychology we have all been taught to think that children's problems are, as a rule, caused by environmental factors, such as how their parents raise them. As a result of this thinking, parents often feel blamed for the problems of their offspring. This in turn fuels conflicts between the parents as they often respond to the perceived blame by blaming each other.

Kids'Skills is designed to put an end to the vicious circle of blaming . In Kids'Skills you don't spend time trying to figure out the reason why a a child has a given problem. Instead, you focus on figuring out what skills the child needs to learn in order to overcome the problem.

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